There are issues of acute issues such as a dog getting startled by lightening or a loud noise.
However, there can be ongoing issues of a Pom experiencing some sort of emotional stress that is preventing normal interaction and therefore, any bonding.
A common reason is separation anxiety; some Poms get so nervous and stressed that it is difficult to 'go back to normal' even after an owner arrives back home.
Less common but certainly something to keep in mind are two issues that we have helped owners with lately. The first problem may be a Pomeranian that is harassed and bothered by another pet. If owners are not home, they may not see this happening.
However, it can cause a Pom to be very upset at all times... not wanting to play or interact…and some may be so 'bullied' that it affects everything from eating to sleeping. Another rare but possible issue is that another human is mistreating the dog.
Sadly, this was the case recently with a young woman whose boyfriend was jealous of her Pomeranian and took this out on the dog when she was not looking. It is shocking and not something that one would want to think about, however since this can happen, it is something to consider if things appear that this may possibly be the case.
Pomeranians or any other dogs for that reason, just cannot act normal and have a close bond with their owner if they are living under stress and experiencing problems on a constant basis. As long as the home environment IS one of peace, love and happiness, you can move on to learn how to bond with your Pom…. And if there are issues that need looking at, certainly do this before going any further.
Another element that can be mistaken for a bonding problem is actually play, believe it or not. We recently corresponded with an owner who was troubled that her Pomeranian would only come to her halfway and then would lie down, seemingly act afraid, keeping staring
but refuse to come any closer.
In response, she would pick up the Pom and once settled on the sofa with her, the Pom was happy, content and loving. Why would her dog do this? It was determined that her Pom was actually playing a game and was essentially 'trained' to act this way. He would lie down and act as he did, knowing that the next step 'should be' that the owner came over and scooped him up.
Finally, a chaotic household that has frequent yelling, overcrowding, loud music and other elements that strip away a sense of peace and security will often affect a dog negatively and to the point that he is too overwhelmed to relax and even try to enjoy any interaction.
In order to have a close bond with a dog, the dog needs to first feel safe and content in a safe, warm, peaceful, happy home. Without this, it is an uphill battle and if these elements are not offered, it could be considered neglect.